moms need real connections

This one is for moms looking for real connections.

The other day at a lake I started talking to a mom who is pregnant and was chasing her 2-year-old around.

We immediately hit it off and talked about all things #momlife. I love it when that happens.

Sometimes when I get a moment to myself at home I jump on social media to check out friends’ posts. To feel connected to other moms and people. It usually doesn’t give me that feeling though. So instead I’ve been texting my friends.

I send them random photos. I leave them short or long audio messages telling them what’s going on around here and asking how they are doing.

Instead of wasting my energy searching for connection I extend that energy to the people I already know and love.

Instead of commenting publicly on random posts, I text my friends.

Sometimes I even call them and talk on the phone. Can you believe it? I know that sounds ancient, but it still happens, sometimes. When a tiny window of calm opens up in the day. I call people who I can hang up on if my toddler starts screaming, “no I want this one!” And my son starts yelling for snacks.

What I’m saying is, if social media isn’t giving you the connection you’re looking for, leave it alone.

Talk to moms at the park or while waiting to pick up your kids from school.

Text friends you haven’t heard from in a while.

Try out a mom workout, yoga, or art class.

Or dare I say, call someone to have an actual conversation.

Ideally, I’d be able to meet up with my friends more regularly, but mom/child/work schedules feel impossible. I dream of having time away with friends, it restores my childlike nature and fuels me to play more with my kids when my cup is full.

If anyone has any tips for getting adult women together that’s not book club and another thing we have to do, but something fun, I’m open for advice.

I’m dreaming about getting women together around a fire to talk about being a fire starter, inspired by

Shannon Watts

new book Fired Up.